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No, I Don’t Want to Run with You

Why I Want to Run Alone

“Some days, it’s not about speed or miles. It’s just therapy.”  – Unknown

I know the title may sound a little rude, but for me, it’s the truth. I don’t want to run with anyone unless it’s in an event and even then, I’m still going to run by myself. I want to run alone. 

I once had a friend tell me I needed to run with others instead of by myself all the time. This friend said it wasn’t good that I spent so much time running alone. That I needed to run with others.

And for some, this may be true. I recognize a running group can be a positive thing to help motivate and inspire along with the social aspect, but I don’t want that. I want to run and only run. I get what social interaction I want at other times and I don’t need it while I’m running. 

I have no problem chatting with you before and after the event and I’ll chat with you about all things running anytime you want — just not while I’m running. I’ll hike with you and take a walk when you ask, but I’m not going to run with you. I want to run alone. 

I’ll help you with advice and what has worked for me. We can swap stories about how running has impacted our lives and we can brag about our personal records to each other, but I don’t want to run with you.

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Photo by Lucas Favre on Unsplash

“Running is alone time that lets my brain unspool the tangles that build up over days.” — Rob Haneisen

Running is almost a sacred thing to me. It’s my time to be alone and with my thoughts. It’s my time to figure out things in my life. It’s my time to be with nature and enjoy what it has to offer. Running is my therapy so I don’t need a therapist running alongside me. And I don’t want to be your therapist while I’m running.

I’m not lonely when I run — quite the contrary. I’m alive and free. When I run I’m at peace and all the troubles of life vanish. I’m with the person I need to know better and we are getting closer with every run. We are becoming better friends and that helps me become a better person for those around me. I’m me.

I’m one with the road, the trail, the desert. I’m one with myself. It’s a high unlike any other, almost spiritual if you believe in that sort of thing. It’s hard to explain in writing so I don’t know if I can do it justice. But running alone is a happy place for me. 

I do know running is something which gives me freedom. Freedom from the noise, conflict, and drama of the world. Running helps me understand myself better, and it gives me something I could never give back. It’s a one-way street with no traffic to slow me down. It’s my path to a better me. To a better life, a better father, and better relationships. 

Because I find solace in running alone. I find sanctuary in my head and in my mind when I run. It’s my time and my place. And as selfish as it sounds, I don’t want to share that with anyone. While that may change, right now, I want to be alone when I run.

So I don’t mean to be rude, but I don’t want to run with you.

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